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Mother’s Day

Happy Mother’s Day to all Mothers out there, especially those experiencing this day for the very first time!

I Googled “Mother’s Day Quotes” looking for something poignant about carrying a baby and giving birth, but instead I found one that made this mother-of-three laugh out loud:

Before I got married I had six theories about bringing up children; now I have six children, and no theories. ~John Wilmot

Ha!  Isn’t it so true?  Before becoming a Mother, didn’t we all have it figured out?  “Well, I’ll never bribe my children!”  “Hmph, I’ll never use the television as a babysitter!”  “Oh my, I’ll never let my child whine in public like that!”

Insanity is hereditary; you get it from your children. ~Sam Levenson

And then, you become pregnant.  You read books like What to Expect When You’re Expecting and others that prepare you for life with baby.  You develop ideas and theories, noting how you will be different from the way your Mother parented you.

Then baby comes.  She changes everything about your life, and all of the sudden, “I” no longer exists.  It’s now, “we.”

When you are a mother, you are never really alone in your thoughts.  A mother always has to think twice, once for herself and once for her child.  ~Sophia Loren

Bathroom trips become perfectly timed during Baby’s “quiet alert” time, meals are eaten around Baby’s nursing schedule, and naps happen any time, any where- as long as Baby is sleeping too.

Baby grows, and somehow the person that used to be 7 lbs 13 oz is now nearly 40 lbs, and she confesses that she likes to make fun of us quietly so that we can’t hear her.  She likes to pick fights, antagonize others, speak rudely, and yell quite loudly when she doesn’t get what she wants.

Where did Baby go?  What happened to those “theories” that were supposed to yield the perfect child?

Making the decision to have a child is momentous.  It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body.  ~Elizabeth Stone

Despite the numerous parenting books read, chats with been-there-done-that friends, and hours of discussions with husband, Baby still grows up.  She changes, she develops, she becomes her own person.  It’s sometimes hard for Mother to watch.  But the kicker?  This is the way it’s supposed to be.

Stephanie's Mom, Sister, and Daughter

Mother prepares for this, she knows the day is coming (but prays it never will) when Baby will dramatically declare her hatred for the Woman that grew her within her womb.  And Mother will wonder if prayers have been heard or were merely whispered in vain.

Mothers hold their children’s hands for a short while, but their hearts forever.  ~Author Unknown

Then one day a beautiful thing happens.  Baby shares the joyful news with Mother that she has now become Mother.  And through her preparations, she realizes that she can only pray that she can be as good of a Mother as her own Mother was to her.

It was when I had my first child that I understood how much my mother loved me. ~ From “For Mother – A Bouquet of Sentiments”

Today I thank my Mother for kissing my boo-boos, encouraging me to stick it out when I wanted to quit, telling me “no” when I wanted to go out and party, and for supporting me as I learn how to be Mother to my own children.  Mom, you did a perfect job, thank you for setting such a compassionate example for me. I love you!

#holidays #personalreflections

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